Maybe you’ve been feeling sad a lot lately; maybe you’re finding yourself snapping at the people you care about; or perhaps you’ve noticed that you’ve recently been feeling more anxious or nervous.
Don’t let emotions ruin your life!!
Learning to manage your emotions means becoming more aware of your feelings and figuring out what to do with them so that you’re not hurting yourself or other people because of how you feel.
Check out the statements below and tick the ones that apply to you. If you notice that you have more checks in certain section, then these are the areas that I can help you to focus on and give you tools and techniques to cope and feel better 🙂
THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS
- I often say or do things without thinking and later regret my words or actions
- I usually feel like I don’t really know who I am, what I like and dislike, and what my opinions are
- I often change my opinion and go along with the opinions of others so that I won’t feel different
- I sometimes feel ‘bad’ or ‘upset’ without knowing exactly what I’m feeling or why
- I often judge myself or other people critically
- I frequently try to avoid things that make me uncomfortable
- I often find myself saying things like ‘This shouldn’t have happened’, ‘It’s not fair’ or ‘It’s not right’
- I tend to think about the worst possible outcomes
This is what one of my client's said:
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“Karen is caring and solution focused using a variety of methods with her well developed intuition. She is a very good listener and has a genuine will to help others through a process of transformation. Things are definitely on the up, with a lot of thanks to Karen’s help.”
- Shelly, Student
EMOTION REGULATION
- I try to avoid my emotions by sleeping, partying a lot, immersing myself in video games, or doing other things that take me away from my feelings
- Emotions are scary for me. I try to push them away or get rid of them in other ways
- I tend to dwell on the negative parts of my life
- I’m not very active and don’t have regular activities that I enjoy
- I neglect setting short or long-term goals for myself; for example, I avoid thinking about where I’d like to be in a year, in two years, or in five years from now
- I often don’t have events or situations coming up in my life to look forward to
DISTRESS TOLERANCE
- I regularly dwell on negative things that have happened to me
- I often find myself having painful emotions because I think about things that have happened in the past or might happen in the future
- I tend to ignore my own needs; for example, I don’t usually take the time to do things that are relaxing or enjoyable for me
- When I’m in crisis, I often find myself making the situation worse by lashing out at others who are trying to help, and so on
- I tend to lose friends or the support of my family because they don’t like the things I do to cope with my emotions
RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS
- I feel like I give (or take) more in my relationships rather than having a balance of give and take
- I often feel taken advantage of in relationships
- When relationships aren’t going well, I tend to end them without first trying to fix the problems
- I often feel like others end relationships with me before I’m ready for them to end
- I tend to be more passive in communicating with others; for example, I don’t stick up for myself or I go along with the other person all the time
- I tend to be more aggressive in communication with others; for example, I try to force my opinion on the other person
- I tend to get into unhealthy relationships with people who, for example, don’t treat me well or who bully me
Each of the check marks indicate an area where you would benefit from learning some skills to help you be more resourceful by managing your emotions. This will help you deal with situations and other people in a way that is positive to you.
I work with many teenagers and can support you by...
- Providing a comfortable and friendly setting to give you space to explore your thoughts and feelings
- Helping to build your confidence and emotional skills
- Creating strategies to help you communicate and express yourself in a more resourceful way
- Building your resilience and social intelligence awareness
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